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dazdsb
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/07/09 00:06:44 (permalink)
This place was pretty fucking peaceful for a couple of weeks and then this guy turns back up ffs. 
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/07/09 00:42:51 (permalink)
Arcadian
its a shame you allow your depression to detach you from empathy and sympathy




I've noticed that quite a few people i know have suddenly turned into refugee hating, intolerant right wingers then have announced how depressed or suicidal they've been. It's hard to have sympathy with people who take out their issues on other people.
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/07/09 01:02:32 (permalink)
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Arcadian
its a shame you allow your depression to detach you from empathy and sympathy




I've noticed that quite a few people i know have suddenly turned into refugee hating, intolerant right wingers then have announced how depressed or suicidal they've been. It's hard to have sympathy with people who take out their issues on other people.


I haven't felt suicidal for over 15 years. I dealt with the root causes of my depression in group therapy about 4 years ago.
I don't hate legitimate refugees. All of my grandparents left Europe because of the USSR. Sympathy is quite worthless as people tend to use it as a prop to show how virtuous and caring they are. I prefer empathy for people whose situations I can relate to. I couldn't imagine risking my son's future to satiate an addiction. Therefore, zero empathy. I believe in socialist ideals backed up by conservative values and the rule of law. If that's right-wing then so be it. I don't see a connection between transference of personal issues and opposing Marxist moral relativism.
 
How's your liver, Nick?
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/07/09 07:35:09 (permalink)
My dad was a gambling addict who couldn't give a flying fuck about his three kids growing up, luckily our mum did her best to raise us the best she could. Unfortunately we've all ended up with either addictive, depressive or dare I say it suicidal personalities. I've felt nothing but anger towards my dad and chose to have no contact with him from the age of sixteen, I wouldn't even bat an eyelid if he snuffed it. One of my brothers has nothing to do with his child and the other brother only see's his on weekends and although he loves him to bits, depression is clearly getting in the way of raising him to the best of his abilities. Circumstance has drilled into me that once you bring a child onto this planet you have a responsibility to do right by them regardless of your own issues, for this reason I point blank refuse to have children at this time as I can barely look after myself let alone another human being.
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/07/09 09:04:28 (permalink)
Rapt
Circumstance has drilled into me that once you bring a child onto this planet you have a responsibility to do right by them regardless of your own issues, for this reason I point blank refuse to have children at this time as I can barely look after myself let alone another human being.


That's a pretty sensible (and brave) stance to have. It seems that people often lunge straight in to parenthood without proper consideration of their own life constraints/mental state/relationship troubles. I'm lucky that I've not had to deal with any mental health challenges as yet, but I can tell you that parenthood can drive even those most stable and comfortable parents to the very edge at times. Throw in some pre existing personal issues and I can see how it could quickly spiral out of control.
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/07/09 09:56:33 (permalink)
gutlessrhyme
I'm lucky that I've not had to deal with any mental health challenges as yet,



You got a free pass on the feels stick after they broke the ugly one on you.
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/07/09 21:05:14 (permalink) ☄ Helpfulby Joey Gunz 2017/07/10 10:09:40
I'm genuinely touched by how supportive 99% of members on here are. 10 years ago I would never had expressed any true emotion on this forum apart from cynicism and sarcasm.
 
I've suffered from anxiety for years and have been very lucky to have a mum who I can turn to at any time if I need any help. Not everyone is so fortunate. 
 
 


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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/07/09 21:23:23 (permalink)
Majik
He was doing so well up until that last paragraph too


I was about to type a "best post ever from you Bill" and then the last paragraph started
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/07/09 21:29:29 (permalink)
Mr Sketch
I'm genuinely touched by how supportive 99% of members on here are. 10 years ago I would never had expressed any true emotion on this forum apart from cynicism and sarcasm.
 
I've suffered from anxiety for years and have been very lucky to have a mum who I can turn to at any time if I need any help. Not everyone is so fortunate. 
 
 

I'm in a similar place mate. If it wasn't for my mum I would certainly be dead.
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/07/21 17:59:25 (permalink)
Sorry to bring this thread up again but i woke after a dream within a dream within a dream. Its hard to explain but the night terrors thread was nothing compared to this.
and as such ive felt like shit all day and i know the booze this evening hasnt helped but fuck me what an awful day.

Small shit has become big shit.
my head is becoming a big bowl of i dont know.

Probably a good sleep will do....
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/07/21 18:22:03 (permalink) ☄ Helpfulby Walter Sobchak 2017/07/21 18:25:33
geordie007
Sorry to bring this thread up again but i woke after a dream within a dream within a dream. Its hard to explain but the night terrors thread was nothing compared to this.
and as such ive felt like shit all day and i know the booze this evening hasnt helped but fuck me what an awful day.

Small shit has become big shit.
my head is becoming a big bowl of i dont know.

Probably a good sleep will do....



It will.  Have an early night, tomorrow is new day.
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/07/21 18:31:58 (permalink)
SmokedEggs
geordie007
Sorry to bring this thread up again but i woke after a dream within a dream within a dream. Its hard to explain but the night terrors thread was nothing compared to this.
and as such ive felt like shit all day and i know the booze this evening hasnt helped but fuck me what an awful day.

Small shit has become big shit.
my head is becoming a big bowl of i dont know.

Probably a good sleep will do....



It will.  Have an early night, tomorrow is new day.


This is true and i know it but sat here analizing shit and making up stuff in me head to justify how i feel is bad.
I know this and yet still do this
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/07/21 19:39:20 (permalink)
Just try and cut out the drink, it's a depressant so won't work in your favour mate
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/07/22 16:31:13 (permalink)
Yeah tomorrow is a new day Geordie. Maybe try and go on a long walk tomorrow, without fail I always feel somewhat better afterwards. I think the combination of being out in nature, getting a load of fresh air and getting some light exercise is great for calming the mind. 
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/07/22 18:30:30 (permalink)
Guy I know at work was talking about being on medication and working loads of hours to keep busy. He was treated for depression and diagnosed with a personality disorder.

He was referred to and went through councilling. However, at home he was alone and drinking quite heavily.

Without all the details as its only just happened, through no fault of his own he had an accident at work and was suspended few weeks ago. Found out earlier today he killed himself.

I wouldn't say it if it wasn't true, he was a genuinely good guy. If those crutches you're hanging on to disappear, you need a back up plan or an alternative way to deal with your problems.

Got to say I've reflected on it and currently in the process of making a few changes myself.

Edit: Not aimed at anyone, just sayin
post edited by OEM - 2017/07/22 18:31:31


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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/08/16 20:49:00 (permalink)
Gotta say much love to this place really. We don't really know each other (ok some of you do) but as others have mentioned its an ok place to reach out / vent / be a bit different from the usual stresses of life when you cannot talk about certain stuff. Big up.
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/10/01 19:19:21 (permalink)
OEM
Guy I know at work was talking about being on medication and working loads of hours to keep busy. He was treated for depression and diagnosed with a personality disorder.

He was referred to and went through councilling. However, at home he was alone and drinking quite heavily.

Without all the details as its only just happened, through no fault of his own he had an accident at work and was suspended few weeks ago. Found out earlier today he killed himself.

I wouldn't say it if it wasn't true, he was a genuinely good guy. If those crutches you're hanging on to disappear, you need a back up plan or an alternative way to deal with your problems.

Got to say I've reflected on it and currently in the process of making a few changes myself.

Edit: Not aimed at anyone, just sayin


Top 2 paragraphs resonate tbh.
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/10/01 19:32:22 (permalink)
Well, since then I found out he was not getting on with his ex and his son was refusing to go to his house or see him. That, plus the shit at work tipped him over the edge.
 
I truly believe if he had something to take his mind off things then he wouldn't have done what he did.
 
I had convos with him when he's said he couldn't stay in his flat because he kept thinking the same thing over and over. I think loneliness is a cunt and if you stay as you are nothing will change, so how will things get better?  Going to the pub and getting pissed everyday isn't the answer.


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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/10/01 19:51:04 (permalink)
Thought was was pretty fitting for this thread.
 
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kG_qrKTvARw
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/11/14 08:05:14 (permalink)
Hachet
DJ Hardline
Hunchback
T-Kay-O
IKOS

RIP

I remembered this thread bringing out the nicer side of this place (minus the whiskey bill comments)
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/11/14 10:27:00 (permalink) ☄ Helpfulby Whagwan 2017/11/14 10:32:15
Add Kymatik to that list. Too many names for what has always been a relatively small community.
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/11/14 10:38:34 (permalink)
I can't remember his forum name but he posted here at least a few hundred times, I went to school with him and moved in the same circles, used to go to his house before and after raves quite often

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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/11/14 10:46:27 (permalink)
gutlessrhyme
Hachet
DJ Hardline
Hunchback
T-Kay-O
IKOS

RIP

I remembered this thread bringing out the nicer side of this place (minus the whiskey bill comments)


IKOS is dead??
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/11/14 10:47:44 (permalink)
Domino
gutlessrhyme
Hachet
DJ Hardline
Hunchback
T-Kay-O
IKOS

RIP

I remembered this thread bringing out the nicer side of this place (minus the whiskey bill comments)


IKOS is dead??



Read the top pinned thread bro
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/11/14 10:48:57 (permalink)
gutlessrhyme
Hachet
DJ Hardline
Hunchback
T-Kay-O
IKOS

RIP

I remembered this thread bringing out the nicer side of this place (minus the whiskey bill comments)



Pretty sad really and does make you think, considering this is a community of a couple of hundred if that. 
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/11/14 10:50:01 (permalink)
Domino
gutlessrhyme
Hachet
DJ Hardline
Hunchback
T-Kay-O
IKOS

RIP

I remembered this thread bringing out the nicer side of this place (minus the whiskey bill comments)


IKOS is dead??



http://forum.breakbeat.co...amp;mpage=7#1976081999
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/11/20 11:52:00 (permalink)
One of my best friends admitted to the hospice on the weekend. 
 
It's been very odd, he's in agony so it's difficult to know how welcome you are. He's told me a few times that it's "not worth it" coming round but I went round once or twice and it turned out fine- built a fatty, stuck some comedy on and shit. He's had his family round him the last few weeks so I haven't wanted to intrude very much, but you can't help wondering if you are putting two and two together and making five. 
 
Hope he gets out for a bit before I lose him, could really do with one more smoke and maybe a chance to say a couple of things. There's never a right time is there- you don't want to start getting maudlin too early and it's getting too messy to have a meaningful conversation now
 
 
 
 


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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/11/20 12:15:47 (permalink)
Sorry to hear that mate, wish you all the best.
 
Just make sure you use what time you have, and you're right... there is never a good time... so sometimes you've just got to take the plunge
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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/11/20 12:37:31 (permalink)
Cheers mate, appreciate the words. The more I know the more about this situation the more I realise there is so much shit flying around people probably will allow you the odd faux pas and that making a tit of myself is and never has been the end of the world.


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Re: Before someone you loves dies 2017/11/20 12:55:02 (permalink)
Sorry to hear that dave but you just have to go there and see him as much as you can before he goes. You know youll regret it if you don't and you don't need that in your life. 
 
 
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